BENEFIT FROM SHARED THINKING

 BENEFIT FROM SHARED THINKING

Good thinkers, especially those who are also good leaders, understand the power of shared thinking. They know that when they value the thoughts and ideas of others, they receive the compounding results of shared thinking and accomplish more than they ever could on their own. Those who participate in shared thinking understand the following: 

1. Shared Thinking Is Faster than Solo Thinking. 

We live in a truly fast-paced world. To function at its current rate of speed, we can’t go it alone. I think the generation of young men and women just entering the workforce sense that very strongly. Perhaps that is why they value community so highly and are more likely to work for a company they like than one that pays them well. Working with others is like giving yourself a shortcut. If you want to learn a new skill quickly, how do you do it? Do you go off by yourself and figure it out, or do you get someone to show you how? You can always learn more quickly from someone with experience—whether you’re trying to learn how to use a new software package, develop your golf swing, or cook a new dish. 

2. Shared Thinking Is More Innovative than Solo Thinking .

We tend to think of great thinkers and innovators as soloists, but the truth is that the greatest innovative thinking doesn’t occur in a vacuum. Innovation results from collaboration. Albert Einstein once remarked, “Many times a day I realize how much my own outer and inner life is built upon the labors of my fellow men, both living and dead, and how earnestly I must exert myself in order to give in return as much as I have received.” Shared thinking leads to greater innovation, whether you look at the work of researchers Marie and Pierre Curie, surrealists Luis Brunel and Salvador Dali, or songwriters John Lennon and Paul McCartney. If you combine your thoughts with the thoughts of others, you will come up with thoughts you’ve never had! 

3.. Shared Thinking Brings More Maturity than Solo Thinking .

As much as we would like to think that we know it all, each of us is probably painfully aware of our blind spots and areas of inexperience. When I first started out as a pastor, I had dreams and energy, but little experience. To try to overcome that, I attempted to get several high-profile pastors of growing churches to share their thinking with me. In the early 1970s, I wrote letters to the ten most successful pastors in the country, offering them what was a huge amount of money to me at the time (100) to meet me for an hour, so that I could ask them questions. When one said yes, I’d visit him. I didn’t talk much, except to ask a few questions. I wasn’t there to impress anyone or satisfy my ego. I was there to learn. I listened to everything he said, took careful notes, and absorbed everything I could. Those experiences changed my life. You’ve had experiences I haven’t, and I’ve had experiences you haven’t. Put us together and we bring a broader range of personal history—and therefore maturity—to the table. If you don’t have the experience you need, hook up with someone who does. 

CULTIVATE BIG-PICTURE THINKING

 Cultivate Big-Picture Thinking.

Big-picture thinking can benefit any person in any profession.. When two parents are fed up with potty training, poor grades, or fender-benders, and one reminds the other that the current difficult time is only a temporary season, then they benefit from thinking big picture. "Where success is concerned, people are not measured in inches, or pounds, or college degrees, or family background; they are measured by the size of their thinking.” —DAVID SCHWARTZ 

Big-picture thinkers are never satisfied with what they already know. They are always visiting new places, reading new books, meeting new people, learning new skills. And because of that practice, they often are able to connect the unconnected. They are lifelong learners. 

To help me maintain a learner’s attitude, I spend a few moments every morning thinking about my learning opportunities for the day. As I review my calendar and to-do list—knowing whom I will meet that day, what I will read, which meetings I will attend—I note where I am most likely to learn something. 

Then I mentally cue myself to look attentively for something that will improve me in that situation. If you desire to keep learning, I want to encourage you to examine your day and look for opportunities to learn. 

You can find many big-picture thinkers who aren’t leaders, but you will find few leaders who are not big picture thinkers. Leaders must be able to do many important things for their people: 

• See the vision before their people do.They also see more of it. This allows them to… 

• Size up situations, taking into account many variables. Leaders who see the big picture discern possibilities as well as problems to form a foundation to build the vision. Once leaders have done that, they can… 

• Sketch a picture of where the team is going, including any potential challenges or obstacles. The goal of leaders shouldn’t be merely to make their people feel good, but to help them be good and accomplish the dream. The vision, shown accurately, will allow leaders to… 

• Show how the future connects with the past to make the journey more meaningful. When leaders recognize this need for connection and bridge it, then they can… 

• Seize the moment when the timing is right. In leadership, when to move is as important as what you do. As Winston Churchill said, “There comes a special moment in everyone’s life, a moment for which that person was born.… When he seizes it… it is his finest hour.” 

UTILIZE STRATEGIC THINKING

 Utilize Strategic Thinking.

Strategic Thinking Prompts You to Ask the Right Questions.

When you hear the words “strategic thinking,” what comes to mind? Do visions of business plans dance in your head? Do you conjure up marketing plans, the kind that can turn a company around? Perhaps you contemplate global politics. Perhaps, but strategy doesn’t have to be restricted to military action or even to business. Strategic thinking can make a positive impact on any area of life. 

Do you want to break down complex or difficult issues? Then ask questions. Strategic thinking forces you through this process. Take a look at the following questions developed by  my mentor Bobb Biehl, the author of Master planning.  

Direction: What should we do next? Why? 

Organization: Who is responsible for what? Who is responsible for whom? Do we have the right people in the right places? 

Cash: What is our projected income, expense, net? Can we afford it? How can we afford it? 

Nun: Are we on target? 

Overall Evaluation: Are we achieving the quality we expect and demand of ourselves? 

Refinement: How can we be more effective and more efficient (move toward the ideal)? These may not be the only questions you need to ask to begin formulating a strategic plan, but they are certainly a good start.

TOP TEN SECRET OF SUCCESS

Top 10 Secret of success by Arabinrin Temitope

Everybody loves a good secret. In fact, the juicier, the better. Why? Because we all love being insiders. We love the feeling of exclusivity, of knowing something that’s just ours and no one else’s.

But in everything, secrets do more than just stroke our egos. We love having the upper hand. We love having the “unfair advantage,” to excel.

• 1. Sleep less. This is one of the best investments you can make to make your life more productive and rewarding. Most people do not need more than 6 hours to maintain an excellent state of health. Try getting up one hour earlier for 21 days and it will develop into a powerful habit. Remember, it is the quality not the quantity of sleep that is important. And just imagine having an extra 30 hours a month to spend on the things that are important to you.

• 2. Set aside one hour every morning for personal development matters. Meditate, visualize yourday, read inspirational texts to set the tone of your day, listen to motivational tapes or read greatliterature. Take this quiet period to vitalize and energize your spirit for the productive day ahead.Watch the sun rise once a week or be with nature. Starting the day off well is a powerful strategy for self-renewal and personal effectiveness.

• 3. Do not allow those things that matter the most in your life be at the mercy of activities thatmatter the least. Every day, take the time to ask yourself the question "is this the best use of mytime and energy?" Time management is life management so guard your time with great care.

• 4. Use the rubber band method to condition your mind to focus solely on the most positive elements in your life. Place a rubber band around your wrist. Each time a negative, energy sapping thought enters your mind, snap the rubber band. Through the power of conditioning, your mind will associate pain with negative thinking and you will soon possess a strongly positive mindset.

• 5. Always answer the phone with enthusiasm in your voice and show your appreciation for the caller. Good phone manners are essential. To convey authority on the line, stand up. This will instill further confidence in your voice.

• 6. Throughout the day we all get inspiration and excellent ideas. Keep a set of cards (the size of business cards; available at most stationary stores) in your wallet along with a pencil to jot down these insights. When you get home, put the ideas in a central place such as a coil notepad and review them from time to time. As noted by Oliver Wendell Holmes: "Man\'s mind, once stretched by a new idea, never regains its original dimensions."

• 7. Set aside every Sunday evening for yourself and be strongly disciplined with this habit. Usethis period to plan your week, visualize your encounters and what you want to achieve, to readnew materials and inspirational books, to listen to soft soothing music and to simply relax. This habit will serve as your anchor to keep you focused, motivated and effective throughout the coming week.

• 8. Always remember the key principle that the quality of your life is the quality of your communication. This means the way you communicate with others and, more importantly, the way you communicate with yourself. What you focus on is what you get. If you look for the positive this is what you get. This is a fundamental law of Nature.

• 9. Stay on purpose, not on outcome. In other words, do the task because it is what you love todo or because it will help someone or is a valuable exercise. Don\'t do it for the money or the recognition. Those will come naturally. This is the way of the world.

• 10. Laugh for five minutes in the mirror each morning. Steve Martin does. Laughter activates many beneficial chemicals within the body that place us into a very joyous state. Laughter also returns the body to a state of balance. Laughter therapy has been regularly used to heal persons with varied ailments and is a wonderful tonic for life\'s ills. While the average 4 year old laughs 500 times a day, the average adult is lucky to laugh 15 times a day. Revitalize the habit of laughter, it will put far more living into your Life.

CHANGE YOUR LIFE THINKING

CHANGE YOUR LIFE THINKING by Arabinrin Temitope 2020.

There is a law in psychology that if you form a picture in your mind of what you would like to be, and you keep and hold that picture there long enough, you will soon become exactly as you have been thinking.  -William James

Once upon a time there was a woman, about 30 years old, married with two children. Like many people, she had grown up in a home where she was constantly criticized and often treated unfairly by her parents. As a result, she developed deep feelings of inferiority and low self-esteem. She was negative and fearful, and had no confidence at all. She was shy and self-effacing, and did not consider herself to be particularly valuable or worthwhile. She felt that she was not really talented at anything. 

       One day, as she was driving to the store, another car went through a red light and smashed into her.When she awoke, she was in the hospital with a mild concussion and complete memory loss. She could still speak, but she had no recollection of any part of her past life. She was a total amnesiac. 

       At first, the doctors thought it would be temporary. But weeks passed and no trace of her memory returned. Her husband and children visited her daily, but she did not know them. This was such an unusual case that other doctors and specialists came to visit her as well, to test her and ask her questions about her condition. 

Eventually, she went home, her memory a complete blank. Determined to understand what had happened to her, she began reading medical textbooks and studying in the specialized area of amnesia and memory loss. She met and spoke with specialists in this field. Eventually she wrote a paper on her condition. Not long afterward, she was invited to address a medical convention to deliver her paper, answer questions about her amnesia, and share her experiences and ideas on neurological functioning. Perhaps the greatest breakthrough in the field of human potential in the twentieth century was the discovery of the self-concept. This is the idea that each person develops a bundle of beliefs regarding oneself, starting at birth. Your self-concept then becomes the master program of your subconscious computer, determining everything you think, say, feel, and do. For this reason, all change in your outer life begins with a change in your self-concept, with a change in the way you think and feel about yourself and your world. The child is born with no self-concept at all. Every idea, opinion, feeling, attitude, or value you have as an adult you learned from childhood. Everything you are today is the result of an idea or impression you took in and accepted as true. When you believe something to be true, it becomes true for you, whatever the fact may be. ''You are not what you think you are, but what you think, you are.'' If you were raised by parents who continually told you what a good person you were, who loved you, encouraged you, supported you, and believed in you, no matter what you did or didn't do, you would grow up with the belief that you were a good and valuable person. By the age of three, this belief would lock in and become a fundamental part of the way you view yourself in relation to your world. Thereafter, no matter what happens to you, you would hold to this belief. It would become your reality. 

       If you were raised by parents who did not know how powerful their words and behaviors could be in shaping your personality, they could very easily have used destructive criticism, disapproval, and physical or emotional punishment to discipline or control you. When a child is continually criticized at an early age, he soon concludes that there is something wrong with him. He doesn't understand why it is that he is being criticized or punished, but he assumes that his parents know the truth about him, and that he deserves it. He begins to feel that he is not valuable or lovable. He is not worth very much. He must therefore be worthless. 

       Almost all personality problems in adolescence and adulthood are rooted in what psychologists refer to as love withheld. The child needs love like roses need rain. When children feel unloved, they feel unsafe and insecure. They think, ''I'm not good enough.'' They begin to engage in compensatory behaviors to make up for this inner anxiety. This sense of love deprivation is manifested in misbehavior, personality problems, bursts of anger, depression, hopelessness, lack of ambition, and problems with people and relationships. 

FACT OF "LIFE"

Steve jobs last words will change your view of life.
" I realize that all the recognition and wealth that I took so much pride in have paled and become meaningless in the face of impending death." Meaning,

You can employ someone to drive your car for you,  make money for you, but cannot have someone to bear the sickness for you. Material thing lost can be found, but there is one thing that can never be found when it's lost which is "LIFE". When a person goes into the operating room, he will realize that there is one book that he has yet to finish reading: "BOOK OF HEALTHY LIFE."
Which ever stage in life we are at right now, with time we will face the day when the curtain come down. Treasure love for your family, love for your spouse, live for your friends,
Treat yourself
Cherish one and others.
As we grow older and hence wiser we slowly realize that Gold and sliver, buying expensive things are vanity upon vanity, you will also realize the trey inner happiness does not come from the  material thing of this world. Therefore, I hope you realize when you have mates, buddies and old friends, brother and sisters who you chat and sing songs with, that is the true HAPPINESS.
"THERE ARE THREE FACT OF LIFE"
* Don't educate your children to be rich, but to educate them on how to make good LIFE. So, when they grow up they will know the valve of things not the price.
*Eat your food as your medicine, neither to take your medicines as your food as well.
*You are loved when you are born, you will be loved when you die, in between to manage!

NOTE: IF YOU JUST WANT TO WALK FAST, WALK ALONE! BUT IF YOU WANT TO WALK FAR, WALK TOGETHER!

MIND YOUR VOCABULARY

Come to think of it speakers make a living out of it. Be it a religious speaker a motivational speaker or a teacher. They all use their vocabulary to their best in order to improve your understanding of a concept and leave an impact on you, even when sitting thought a job interview you're basically being assessed how you speak.

In any relationship, the choice of words can either save a relationship, or break one with the right words, you can be more expressive of your feelings ( good or bad) so that the other person. knows exactly how you feel.

Learn how to express yourself and boost people confidence in other to give the courage.

EMBRACE OPPORTUNITIES

Many of us have more opportunities than we realize but we don't take them because of fear. Imagine you're home alone and your friends are busy, you the opportunity you'll be on your own. Do you take it?

We're afraid of being ridiculed of people assuming something in our action. or we're simply afraid that the opportunities we see aren't real.

Many thing what we imagine in our own heads can be a scary things. If you want to develop the right mindset for success you have to start confronting your fear and jumping at every opportunity, even if it might mean failure.

BE WILLING TO CHANGE

There is nothing more than threatening to a success mindset than not being able to change. If you cannot change you cannot be anything more than what you already are and therefore cannot be successful.

To be successful you have yo be able to embrace change but you also have to able to accept things as they come. On your journey there will be failures, there will be successes there will be change and there will be surprises or thing you didn't plan for.

To have a success mindset you need to cultivate your ability to adapt, to change and to be more accepting which will help stop you being afraid of success.

DECIDE ON HOW MUCH YOU WANT TO EARN

Decide On How Much You Want To Earn

We all dream of increasing our income but without a proper plan and its implementation, it not possible to achieve it. In this section, I will teach you how to arrive at your goal and earn more, so that all your dreams can come true.

Your Income

Start creating an image in your mind of what you want in life. Think in detail, what environment you want to be in, what people you want to be surrounded with. Choose a business, which is realistic and will earn you sufficient income. Visualize all details minutely. Then set a goal which difficult to achieve but not impossible. Initially, think of what you to achieve, in one year.

Chalk out the strategies for achieving your target for the year. Think about all the problems you will face and how to tackle it. Think of all the bumpers that you have on your path of success and learn ways of avoiding it. Find out what additional training or qualification you need for achieving your target. Remove all the negative thoughts that enter your mind. Try to combat all the negative thoughts about your income and business. Keep moving towards your target by fighting with all the negative thoughts that discourage you.

Write down all your plans you want to reach in one year’s time, what steps you are going to take. Plan each step and follow them religiously. If required take guidance from the person whose position you desire to be in.

People who are successful, though not in your line of business will be able to guide you. Have a positive outlook and keep reading motivational books for encouragement.

FIND OUT YOUR LIFE PURPOSE

Finding Out Your Life Purpose

In absence of a goal in life, you will not know what to do.

It is important to understand the importance of your existence

When you try to think about what is the mission or purpose of your life, you may not get a clear picture of it. We lack clarity and intelligence for finding our real purpose in life.

It is possible that you may have many goals in your life and may not be able to identify the real one, specific to you. How to bring that one mission out of your mind that will lead you to success? What will happen if you are not able to relate to your dreams? What is next?

WHAT IS SUCCESS?

WHAT IS SUCCESS?

Success is not the key to happiness but happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.

In other word, success just about what you accomplish in your life; it's about what you inspire other to do. According to Thomas J. Watson"Would you like me to give you a formula for success? It's quite simple, really: Double your rate of failure. You are thinking of failure as the enemy of success. But it isn't at all. You can be discouraged by failure or you can learn from it, so go ahead and make mistakes. Make all you can. Because remember that's where you will find success."

Many of life's failure are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.
According to Temitope success story, she said " I never did anything worth doing by accident, nor did any of inventions come indirectly through accident, except the phonograph. No, when I have fully decide that a result is worth getting, I go about it and make trail after trial until it come

In conclusion success never come by not taking steps and before taking the steps first thing to do is to determine.

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